Do Some Girls Deserve To Be Raped?

The story below is a personal experience. This happened sometime in October 2004.


“Hello Ladies, open the door!”
A deep voice said from the back window, the one that had a thick bush directly behind it. Although it seemed only a little more than a whisper, it was very clear in the still of the night.
“We are seven, two are at your door, another two with me here and two at the other window. If you refuse to co-operate you are dead. We have guns and Knives, don’t think of getting smart.”

I sat up abruptly, sweat beads breaking out on my forehead. I glanced at the second bunk in the room and noticed that Sike was also up. We both stared at each other, and I saw naked panic in her eyes. We had left the light on during the night, something I realized to be a very big mistake at that moment. I looked at the wall clock; it was 1.30 in the morning.

My eyes went to the door of the room; it was made with planks and had openings between each of the planks. I glanced at the windows too and realized we didn’t stand any chance. The louvers were made of ply wood and I knew it would be a child’s play for anyone to remove especially since there was no burglar proof. We were trapped and so the only option was to cooperate

We had just resumed school that same day and were still basking in the euphoria of having made it through pre-degree to become an undergraduate.
The house was the same hostel where we stayed during our pre-degree program. It was a public hostel and had four rows of bungalows on each side. The left side was for the females and the right for the males. There was a main gate that was never locked since people go and come at odd hours. Even the door that led into the bungalow where we stayed was never locked so I believed him when he said there was someone at our door.

My throat was dry but I managed to speak;

“What do you want sir? If it is money or our phones, we can pass it through the window.”

My new Nokia 3310 was my most prized possession at that time but I was ready to give it away if it meant not having to be in a room with a group of boys in a deserted building.

He laughed at my words and I heard a scratch on our door as if to confirm that someone was really there.

“Open the door young lady before I break it down”.

I looked at my friend and saw that she could be of no help; she was literarily peeing in her pants. I thought of the other room that was occupied in the house but remembered it was in an interior part of the house and so I couldn’t take the chances that they would hear anything and come to our rescue. The house was always filled with people but since it was still the first day of resumption, it was mostly deserted.

Without thinking, I stood up, wore my slippers and opened the door. Immediately I opened, I brushed past the guy that was at the door, but he drew me back, holding me in a tight grip and tried pushing me back inside the house, I don’t know where the strength came from but I kept struggling with him determined not to enter the room. He was drawing me and saying;

“Enter peacefully and lie down so I can do what I want to do without maiming you.”
I felt a gun at my side but I was still determined not to be raped. I remember sobbing, saying;

“It’s better that you kill me ooo”

I kept thinking that I wasn’t going to lose my innocence to a rapist, never! He struggled and I struggled with him with this extraordinary power that I didn’t know I had. I was finally able to get into the sitting room and then I placed one hand on a cupboard to support myself and yanked myself free. Once I was free, I broke into a run and didn’t stop until I reached the school gate which was like a fifteen minutes walk. I’m sure I made the distance in less than five minutes.

I didn’t remember my friend until I got to the security post. That was when I started telling the security men to follow me to the house, screaming that my friend was inside. It was then that I stopped to think and wondered if there had been just one person all along.
By the time we got back, I met my friend in front of the house with the whole hostel awake; it happened that the guy ran away immediately I broke free probably thinking I was going to scream for help.

The security guys went back to their post after being assured we were safe but I was determined not to spend another night in that house, so we were escorted to our fellowship secretariat to sleep.
It was the next day when we came to pack our stuff that we overheard some of the flat mates talking.

“They deserve it “a voice I recognized said
Especially that small girl, her eyes are too sharp and she would always smile and talk to every boy that she meets. I’m glad they didn’t do it ooo, but I think they deserve it if they had been raped.”

I dropped the clothes I was packing and my friend and I looked at ourselves incredulously like did someone just say that?

The lady went on, “why won’t they come and harass them when they will be wearing trousers all over the place feeling like big girls instead of accepting Jesus into their lives.”

We packed our stuff that afternoon and moved to the school hostel, but I never stopped wondering why anyone would talk like that.
Do some girls deserve to be raped?


29 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. kingsiju ...the positive phenomenon!
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 17:03:26

    Reblogged this on kingsiju and commented:
    i think their views were skewed and based on flawed sense of judgement. Rape is violence and a criminal offense and on no account can it be justified.


  2. ogunmuyiwa adenike
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 17:16:38

    Dis story………mmmm…..tinking.noting wat so ever makes a girl”deserve to be raped”, its criminal and weakness.dos sneering are hypocrites I bet……..over churcheous fellas,inferior complex ridden ppl.


  3. ogunmuyiwa adenike
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 17:19:56

    Lolz……Toyin was the talk of Obanla dt day.”dt small girl” lmao.tank God


    • toyinfabs
      Jan 18, 2013 @ 10:54:16

      The “small girl” with a quick and sharp mouth that refused to call them sister lagbaja. Of course they hated my guts. They were so sad I passed P.D sef. Dem fo happy if to sey I fail


  4. writjunkie
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 17:36:34

    The answer is a resounding and incredulous NO! The question itself is ridiculous. Nobody DESERVES rape. Nobody.


  5. Ibukun
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 18:26:05

    Rapists are not repelled by what ladies wear. If ladies, whose bodies are overly covered in muslim communities, are raped then what pushes these rapists to doing this evil act has got a lot to do with the mind and not just physical factors. So, these ladies are wrong. Nobody deserves to be raped. We condemn rape and rapists.


  6. 9jaBloke
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 19:06:22

    Interesting story. However, the reaction of your former flat mates is an aspect of this rape issue that goes un-noticed and which is the indifference or like in your case the subtle support of it by some of those who ordinarily should be at the fore-front of its condemnation……………the women folk! When l was in Ife back then, l recall a particular rape incident that took place in school which was facilitated by a chic that ”set up” her friend simply based on her envious disposition. It is really a sad commentary on our present circumstances that this crime against humanity continues to go unpunished in our part of the world. For such grevious act that permamnently leaves its victim(s) scarred for what seems like an eternity, no sane mind needs even have a second thought proffering an answer to your question. It would always be NO, any time and every time!!


  7. fabunmi tolani
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 19:14:55

    Uhmmmmm, although i could remember the oncident faintly, although i was kinda small den. Why on earth wil someone say that ?


  8. Dr. Jhon
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 19:34:52

    There’s nothing in this world that justifies the rape of either male or female.
    Nobody no matter his/her character deserves to be raped….not even Lucifer himself.
    Rape is tantamount to the worst desecration of God’s creation & therefore “high treason” against the creator….
    The only just punishment for a rapist is death by any excruciatingly painful means.


  9. Olumide Akinwumi-Oke
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 20:03:01

    Deserve? Wow! That sort of thinking is definitely steeped in jealousy, bitterness… No one deserves to be raped, regardless of the provocation…just some fellow who, because he can’t play God over a life he’s too weak to emulate, decides to be the archdevil!


  10. ubernon
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 20:50:12

    An article well written enough to deserve at least one intelligent answer.

    When you say rape is “inexcusable” you make it sound as though murder may be excused, or that some (innocent people, for instance) deserve to be killed.

    Think more people.

    Generally, no victim of a crime deserved it. Why is rape any different?

    Perhaps the mischief (the intent) behind the attitude of the oily people in your tale is the simple principle that, one must mitigate his damage\exposure to harm.

    People will rape. And be raped. C’est la vie.

    Your duty is to not go proselytising outside a bokoharam camp and not expect to be shot, maimed or blown up.


  11. cocosgist
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 22:04:36

    I guess 2 year olds & little children deserve to be molested…mad women deserve to be raped, after all they are usually naked…f**king retarded statement!!!


  12. olufemiandre
    Jan 17, 2013 @ 22:24:36

    Does any girl deserve to be raped? Absolutely NO.
    Does any body deserve to be raped? Yes. Rapists deserve to be raped….By Gorillas,Giraffes or Grizlly Bears maybe.

    There is never and there has never been an excuse or justification for rape. And there never will be. Unfortunately, rapes will still occur. A rapist will still have the urge to perpertrate his crime. It is therefore a very great injustice to blame any victim that has suffered a rape.

    In the recent case of the indian rape,the victim wasn’t provocatively dressed. Neither was she in an inappropriate location. Was she to blame for what befell her? Abolutely NO. .


  13. Wilson
    Jan 18, 2013 @ 02:35:29

    No girl deserve 2b rape , either bin a gud Grl or bad Grl, dress morally or immorally,


  14. Nana
    Jan 18, 2013 @ 05:07:38

    Some people becloud their sense of humanity with a false veil of religion. Its only an idiot that will say a person deserved to be raped. Even a sex hawker has control over her body. Idiots! Am so glad you escaped my sister. Thank God cos you saved your friend too without knowing


  15. Adenike
    Jan 18, 2013 @ 18:35:58

    Nice article Toyin, but why would dose ladies think another lady deserves to be raped out of jealousy and who are they to judge another human being like dem morons


  16. Enwereuzo Uzoma C
    Jan 19, 2013 @ 13:56:44

    In my own view there is nothing on earth that can justify rape. The act of rape is borne and carried out out of hatred, malice, wickedness, irresponsibility, jealousy, envy and evil intentions. Why on should a normal person indulge in a transaction that does not offer any form of satisfaction. No rapist does or executes his profession without fear as they all know the intended consequences of their acts. Therefore, there is no justification whatsoever for any act of rape…


  17. eddy
    Jan 19, 2013 @ 15:54:16

    Lool @ d funny comments. I’m glad u didn’t come to any harm. God protect us all n our loved ones


  18. Tallman
    Jan 20, 2013 @ 04:16:10

    No, only those who dress carelessly


  19. Azeez Asiwaju-Bello
    Feb 03, 2013 @ 06:14:23

    If i’m not mistaken, the said school is FUTA. Furthermore, no one deserves to be raped. But this rapists were not born like that too. Something must have influenced/motivated them. Have we ever tried to find out what it is and find solutions to it? All we do is condemn just like our dear Presido…Name witheld. Do we all know that the lack of decency in discipline that has overridden our beautiful African values contributed a large quota to this act? A good example is what we see everyday. It only takes the grace of God for an average man to overlook the sex appeal displayed by most women of today. What about a man with low self esteem? He either consoles himself by self service or unleashes his frustrated desires on the next woman available. Which could in turn be T-girl or anyone else. Let us all remember that not all men have had the privilege to be educated and responsible enough to be as composed as the so-called civilised gentlemen of today to control their freaky emotions/desires. Lemme rest here!


  20. Matthew Chiglinsky
    Feb 13, 2013 @ 07:24:54

    That’s a horrific experience.

    Sometimes I think the reason people wish horrible things upon other people is because something horrible happened to them in their own lives and if it happened to someone else that would make them feel more normal. It’s a sort of wishful bullying. Bullies have low self-esteem and put other people down to feel better about themselves.

    Rape is wrong. Acting sexy is actually also wrong for the frustration it can cause, although it is much less wrong and therefore not deserving of rape. Saying that acting sexy is deserving of rape is like saying that acting rude is deserving of murder. It’s two opposite extremes, and only a psychopath would use the word “deserve” to connect the two. (Of course, look at all the gun violence and general acts of war in our world. Human beings are nuts.)


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  22. Damilare
    Feb 25, 2013 @ 08:53:48

    Reblogged this on Dami Writes.


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  24. chibuzo
    Mar 31, 2014 @ 21:14:20

    Although it is criminal, immoral n inhumane 2 rape someone, it is also advisable also on d part of the presume rape victim not to create such environment 4 rape 2 thrive just as stated in d story whereby they slept with d light on and presumbly slept naked which ” unfortunately” n not necessarily led 2 there molestation.



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