RE- Thirty Two, Jobless, Single and Yes Frustrated (A twenty something year old’s response)

This is a response to yesterday’s post. see here

pity party

Self pity, that’s what you are soaking in. I read through your rants with my eyebrows raised as far as they could go. Yes Nigeria was bad; Nigeria is still bad and bla bla bla. But are you the only one that was born into unfavourable conditions? Are you the only one who went to school in a country where teachers and doctors go on strike every other month? Are you the only one who is unmarried and jobless at 32? Babe quit being sorry for yourself and sit up. Check within you, there must be something you can do.

So you think us twenty something year olds with human hair glued to our stupid scalps have it easy? LOL. You are quite naïve sister. What assurance do we have that we won’t get to be thirty, single and like you, dried up and bitter. Of course we don’t have such assurance so every day some of us wake up and put our backs into whatever it is that we do praying for God’s blessings on it. I know twenty something and thirty something year olds who bake cakes on Kerosene stoves, some run laundry outfits with their mother’s old washing machine, others do event decorations, some run gossip blogs and others just do whatever comes to mind. The options out there are endless. Ma’am get innovative!


Let’s face it, no upwardly mobile organization is going to hire an inexperienced thirty something year old. No, they all want twenty seven year olds and below. Live with that!

Also I really wish I could tell you how to look for a man but I simply don’t know. At least we don’t expect you to put yourself on some kind of parade do we? However I will like to suggest that you trash ugly and frumpy clothes if you are the type that wears such. Trust me most guys wouldn’t look at an aging lady in frocks.


Also, that stuff about needing a man above a job, well you might want to have a rethink. Do you honestly think the men out there want to marry a thirty plus woman with no job? You are not only getting old, you are also a liability… tsk tsk tsk ….that might just not work. I will say you get your hands going on something first and who knows in the process that man might just come. He is not going to come and meet you in your brother’s sitting room where you sit moping all day.


P.S Madam, stop giving your bro and his wife attitude, you are lucky you have someone to house you in the first place. Go ask the guys and ladies that sleep, bath and brush their teeth under Obalende Bridge.

I think you should also read some of the comments on your rant. They had so much to offer.



13 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Dennis Agyeman
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 16:38:46

    Hehehe. Is this some sort of War? But this reply no try at all… Atleast pity the woman.. U av no idea what she had been thru. It not her fault.


  2. hounge
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 20:12:57

    Tit for tat


  3. Ms Iyiola
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 20:13:27

    I love the RE!!! We say no to pity party, even if we’re forty something with an absconded husband and kids to raise alone. We walk and we walk tall!


  4. Yetunde
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 20:26:33

    TY!!! tell this young lady that this is just the writer’s state of mind! its not a real person. I’ll be right back pls.


  5. degreatest2
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 20:33:07

    Now, this is fun……! Loving it.


  6. Wale Babatunde
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 20:39:03

    I think this writer missed the entire point of the original piece.

    Correct me if I am wrong but the original piece is not about the jobless lady even though it center around her.

    The piece is about a nation over the last 20years is yet to change or have any plan to change. It about a nation that does not value the youth or put values on it strength. Correct me again if I am wrong, but I think the original piece speaks about hope that was lost and yet to be regain even after 14years of democratic system.

    Anyway, I might be wrong or read wrongly.


    • Onyinye
      Jun 14, 2013 @ 22:06:16

      And I say d writer didn’t miss d point @ all..Miss 32 started wit self pity n blamed her misfortunE on d nation, 4getting that in dis same nation many are rejoicing n living large.. So Miss 20 something only told her 2 snap out of it n get a life… NB: if we all sit n keep blaming d nation 4 d misfortunes, then there will never b a better place 4 us we need 2 take action…*One love*


  7. @bimbolanko
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 21:03:53

    D young lady missed the whole point. That said, I think she should start a blog.


  8. Onyinye
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 21:56:57

    Toyin! Toyin! Toyin!!! I hail ooo..abeg how does this ur brain work…u truly re a creative writer am over impressed.. True talk by d way Mrs 32 pls get creative like Toyinfab *winks with a smile*


  9. khemistree
    Jun 14, 2013 @ 23:27:18

    Na wa! I’m seriously loving this twenty something girl’s reply, cos I labored through reading the rants and ravings of the 32 and single girl. Trust me I won’t want to be the guy around her, I would drown in the murky waters of her moods and blame games.
    God bless you 20 something year old, at least out of the mouth of babes wisdom comes forth. Need I say more ma’am 32 and single please take a cue from this piece, it will definitely do you loads of good.


  10. ustyn
    Jun 16, 2013 @ 21:32:48

    The argument is quite entertainin,32 or twenty smthg yrs should all let it be,this thgs do hapen 4 a reasn,believ u me wt we r as a nation has shape us to b d most adaptable beings on planet earth,our situatn has so made our mentality work abnormal if i may put it dat way,32 wudnt b cmplainin of joblesnes n singlehood n twenty smtg wudnt b bashing at her if all were fyn in our country,bt jst lyk twenty smtg,pls 32 shud learn to take or adapt to hw she finds hersef,aftall we r the most adaptable beings u can fink of


  11. BeyondtheDiploma
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 10:40:41

    Love this! Everything shall come at a perfect timing… We just need to take action 🙂


  12. Johnk307
    Jun 04, 2014 @ 21:33:41

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