THIS “HELP” CALLED WIFE By Matthew Adedoyin

This is a sequel to Toyin Fabunmi’s “This deity called husband”.

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I lay alone on the big couch in my six bed room duplex and asked myself the same questions that have been troubling my mind for years. “Ayodele, Why would a girl play games with a guy as rich as you are? Why are you still single at this age? Why……. Why?” I screamed.

I have always nurtured the dream of marrying at 28, I promised myself to be faithful to my wife, be an awesome husband and great dad. Now I am 36 and I am scared if Toyin my present girlfriend will eventually end up as my wife. Why won’t I, when she does not give me all the benefits that other girls in time past gave.

My younger brother is just 30 and already has two kids. There was a day I visited him and his son shouted “Mummy, Uncle Ayo is here”. The mother secretly shut him up and said, “He is not uncle Ayo, call him big daddy”. After exchange of pleasantries, my brother jokingly said “Egbon, eyin na, e tete mu ‘yawo wa, ki Junior ye ma pe yin ni uncle mo”.

My mother would not let me rest; my father would always want to know what the problem is. All my friends are already fathers and I have always avoided going to family meetings and events because of the question of “When will you bring a wife home”. I have kept my relationship with Toyin secret because I am tired of introducing a new girl to them annually as a fiancée. I want to be sure Toyin is not one of those many girls that have disappointed me in the past.

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I had my first girlfriend when I was in year 3 in the university. She was in year two. She was so caring that she made it her duty to supply me breakfast and dinner. She washed my cloths and helped me in the cleaning of my room. I had concluded in my mind that she was a complete wife material until she called me up one midnight to call the relationship off. Her reason till date I do not know. Then I finished school and went for NYSC where I met Adaobi, an idemili girl.

I met Adaobi at NCCF meeting. She was a  chorister and was very beautiful. My relationship with her started two weeks after we met. I have seen movies where people romance and caress each other but I experienced real life fun for the first time with Adaobi. The supposed god – like babe was the one teaching me different romance techniques. After two months, she moved in with me in the self-contain apartment that I rented and took responsibility of a full house wife. She gave me all the wifely benefits from cooking to sex. She was the first girl I ever slept with and she was so shameless that she discussed it with her friends. She was a romance counselor and sex act– expert at home but a virgin in fellowship. A month to our passing out, I called the relationship off because I felt I wouldn’t be able to live with a hypocrite for the rest of my life and also because I realised she can never make me the best husband I  want to be.

After service, I applied for after school training in Abuja where I met Joy an Akwa Ibom lady. The only thing both of us shared was sex. All the time we were together, there was never a day we did not have sex. I had concluded that sex is all it is to relationship and that it is the best way to exhibit love until I caught Joy having sex with a course mate; that was the end of the relationship.

As if that was not enough, I moved back to Lagos where I became the MD of my dad’s company. I started dating Waje, the company’s accountant. Waje is not only intelligent, she is also very beautiful. Her dress sense is first class. She understands color combinations and workplace etiquette. She exposes a little part of her cleavage and her beauteous thigh for whoever cares to get a glance. “This is the unsurpassable relationship I have ever being”, I thought to myself. I sucked the exuberant, fleshy round curves on her chest with my oral fissure. I would put my head on them like pillow. With Waje, you are on top of the world. One day, after office, we both went straight to my house where we had another great round of sex. She dropped a letter and a card for me in my bedroom and left the house unannounced. The letter was a resignation letter and the card, a wedding invitation in Washington DC, USA. I cried my lungs out but Waje was gone forever.

Then I met Abiola, a single mother – A kind hearted, free spirited and gorgeous woman. The pressure at home has become intolerable, so I decided to festinate Abiola into marrying me. Our relationship started and the intimacy grew really fast. Abiola does not play with prayer. She talks about Christianity, church, God and the likes. You will think she is another Mary, the mother of Jesus. To cut the story short, Abiola became pregnant and to my utmost surprise I was told I wasn’t the father. I accepted my fate when the DNA confirmed it after the handsome baby was born.

After my quandary with Abiola, I met Oghenetega, a warri damsel. We met at a christian center on the Island. Tega as she is fondly called is a christian in the day and a worshipper of affaradigioya, their village deity in the night. I felt I could endure until she told me our first child must be bath with the blood of a goat and palm oil. I did not wait for another minute to call the relationship off.

I was so discouraged that I made up my mind not to go into any relationship again. I was even made to believe by my Uncle that Akoyi, my village ancestor needed to be appeased so we could know why I have the problem of amubo iyawo. My mom has taken me to numerous prophets – both real and fake for prayer. I have attended so many singles’ events like “Get me a spouse or I die”, “My wife! Appear by fire”, “Battle against spirit wife” etc. Till date, I have no wife and I am still very much alive, my wife has not appeared either by fire or by thunder neither have I done any wedding with a spiritual being called emere or iyemoja. Why are all these happening to me? I was lost in serious thought until a call from my secretary disrupted my thoughts. “Hello sir, one miss Toyin Jesubunmi is here to see you”. She said.  “Oh Toyin, let her in” I replied. Toyin is my friend, Femi’s neighbor and she has always told me to visit her church.  So, she came to invite me to the singles’ night holding in her church. I felt reluctant at first  but it the end she was able to convince me.

That evening, the praise and worship was like nothing  I had ever experienced and I enjoyed the time spent in the service. At the end of the sermon, I responded to the Pastor’s altar call. I gave my life to Christ and I started attending church regularly. Toyin would always call me to inform me about programs going on in church. I joined the membership class and I grew both physically and spiritually. After a year, I approached Toyin for a relationship, she accepted after a month and half. Since we have been in courtship, Toyin never entered my bedroom or my kitchen, neither does she cook in my house nor wash my cloths. She would always say, “I am not your wife yet, and until then, I won’t allow you enjoy the benefit of a husband. If you visit my house, I can cook for you but I can’t cook in your house neither will I bring food from my house to yours”

Now this is my fear, if all those girls in time past gave me husband’s benefit as Toyin calls it and yet leave, won’t this one that does not give me at all leave soon?

Foot Note

Marriage is not a two minute instant noodle; you need to take your time before venturing into it. The numerous house chores she does for you do not guarantee she is your wife; the different styles of sex you both have does not mean you will eventually marry her.

The “help” called wife is more precious than anything God ever made. She must be covered so deep that you need to search and search to find her. Not all these thin legged girls, who expose their big pumped tattooed boobs, stinking bum bum and tooth – pick thighs you pick on the road while driving, or the ones you meet at the club who have no future ambition. Neither is she just any girl you meet in the Church.

The scripture says, he who finds a wife, finds a good thing because your wife should help you grow in every ramification of your life – your business, career, home, personal life, spiritual life and other areas. When she comes into your life, then you have obtained favor from God. Therefore, you don’t just pick her accidentally, you have to look for her, search for her and find her.

 

Disclaimer: This article is purely fictional; any similarities between the story, characters, events and real world story, characters, events respectively are purely coincidental and unplanned.

The writer is on twitter as @adedoyinmatthew

photo credit: google images

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18 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Aje Mofifunoluwa Rosemary
    Mar 05, 2013 @ 08:01:31

    9c one. Just dat d guy met with pple who ar nt wife materials and d last who looks like one had come late and with d diff experiences he had faced wt women,he is scared. Relationship is not all abt sex. Its just like one who goes 2d market and finishes all he goes 2buy and eats it at d market, wat wil he eat wen he gets home. Keep urslf b4 marriage and u can get 2any extent after marriage.

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  2. hassan
    Mar 05, 2013 @ 08:34:49

    Sorry broda you really suffered only like 10 girls..but that’s the reality we the men are facing this days,truly there are much girls out there but the wife materials are few only God will guide us through.

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  3. Adejunmobi Yemi
    Mar 05, 2013 @ 10:10:12

    I love this…. very deep

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  4. Enigmatic
    Mar 05, 2013 @ 13:26:59

    I was just about raising alarm ’till I saw your disclaimer… If your story was true I would have told you I didn’t expect anything better to happen to that guy. ‘Colour blocking’ does not apply to relationships; you have to be able to identify which colour that matches yours. I am not saying everything will be 100% perfect when you meet your own, but if you are true to yourself you will know from the beginning that some relationships you enter were not supposed to be.

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  5. Neneh
    Mar 05, 2013 @ 19:30:38

    Hello Matthew! I read ur story and what came to my mind was; ‘So, men suffer such fate?’ Searching for the right one (husband/wife material) can be very discouraging. But i want you to understand that, once you put your trust in God and abide by His rules, your time would come.
    Your story is similar to many others, but know that when God’s time is right and ripe for you, nothing and no one, would stand in your way.
    Men most times don’t appreciate the little things that women do. I support Toyin. You are not yet her husband so, you don’t deserve those benefits. From your story, you and Toyin have been dating for sometime now. How come you haven’t made your intentions known to her, if you like her enough to be your wife? You should understand that the same fear you have of Toyin leaving you, she harbours same. Or, don’t you think that on her part she would feel that, you may cast her out or break up with her once she starts performing ‘wifely’ duties?
    I would suggest you put this in prayers. Ask the Lord for guidance, talk to your pastor and seek advice from your married friends.
    May the Lord be with you as you take a decision. It is well!

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  6. Oluwadamilola Oligbinde
    Mar 05, 2013 @ 23:48:18

    On the contrary @ hassan. One can also decide that there are lots of men out there with less than handful of husband material! Unfortunately, the fact that our ear bro had given his life to Christ doesnt mean what he has lost can be gained. Now, he has to start working for all those free downloads and movie trailer he has had in the past.

    Worst is the fact that, he might get disappointed if Toyin is unable to “play” after marriage as he has been exposed to different seasonal films.

    So before “you” as a guy thinks of unzipping, think of the numerous virtues you lose and the future of your kids you are slowly destroying.

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  7. Oluwadamilola Oligbinde
    Mar 05, 2013 @ 23:50:08

    On the contrary @ hassan. One can also decide that there are lots of men out there with less than handful of husband material! Unfortunately, the fact that our ear bro had given his life to Christ doesnt mean what he has lost can be gained. Now, he has to start working for all those free downloads and movie trailer he has had in the past.

    Worst is the fact that, he might get disappointed if Toyin is unable to “play” after marriage as he has been exposed to different seasonal films.

    So before “you” as a guy thinks of unzipping, think of the numerous virtues you lose and the future of your kids you are slowly destrSo before “you” as a guy thinks of unzipping, think of the numerous virtues you lose and the future of your kids you are slowly destrSo before “you” as a guy thinks of unzipping, think of the numerous virtues you lose and the future of your kids you are slowly destrSo before “you” as a guy thinks of unzipping, think of the numerous virtues you lose and the future of your kids you are slowly destroying.

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  8. Akeem
    Mar 06, 2013 @ 08:01:09

    Terrific and equally thought provoking,brilliant!

    Reply

  9. zara eni
    Mar 08, 2013 @ 11:19:28

    very interesting work of art. every Nigerian man needs to read and meditate on this work

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  10. joshadeshina
    Mar 13, 2013 @ 10:19:15

    Had similar experience, 13ladies, different tribes except Hausa, very unpleasant experiences.

    Reply

  11. Taurai
    Mar 15, 2013 @ 07:09:21

    Thank you for these wise words

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  12. whoelse
    Mar 24, 2013 @ 14:39:48

    Woooow! Almost d Same issues am goin tru. God help us. Marriage is for life o

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  13. hacolyte
    May 23, 2013 @ 18:54:23

    Reblogged this on hacolyte's Blog.

    Reply

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  15. muyiwa
    Jul 26, 2013 @ 06:00:34

    Can’t help laughing out loud …9c one…Agree with you there ‘Marriage isn’t a two minute indomie thing’.

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  16. John
    Aug 09, 2014 @ 22:49:10

    With God nothing is impossible! Stand in faith that Jesus has already won the battle. You and I need to just walk tall in the victory and glorify His name.

    Reply

  17. Fehintoluwa Success
    Jul 25, 2015 @ 18:02:36

    Thanks for sharing.

    Reply

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