Some Women Cheat Like It’s a Sport….


 Me I don’t do that kind of slow motion ooo. See these things are not that hard, you do what you have to do, clean up and go back home to cook for your husband. The thing no dey read meter my sister.”


The other day I was at a salon to make my hair and this woman came in all made up and pretty. She seemed to be a friend to the salon owner and it was apparent she didn’t come to make her hair as she had on a relatively new hairdo. I can’t remember how the conversation turned to cheating but the first thing that attracted my attention was;

“Iwo lo slack ooo….o smart rara. Me I don’t do that kind of slow motion ooo. See these things are not that hard, you do what you have to do, clean up and go back home to cook for your husband. The thing no dey read meter my sister.”

WHAT!!! I exclaimed inwardly at the “clean up and go back home to cook for your husband. The thing no dey read meter my sister.” I immediately paid rapt attention to the discussion.

“Hmm, ekun.” The owner of the salon hailed. “You know sey you get mind.”

“It’s not about mind. There is no big deal really. These men do these things too and who says we can’t get our own pleasures when we need to. All you need to do is be smart, ensure you are not caught. You are only guilty when you are caught.’’

“But me my reason for contemplating it is money ooo.”

“It’s not just about money. My dear. You know I don’t do it for money, it’s not like I don’t have more than I need but sometimes you need love more than money and most of these our men don’t know that. They rarely think of fulfilling our emotional needs so we have to be responsible for our happiness and grab it from wherever we can get it.’’


She moved towards the Salon owner and whispered something in her ear. It was hard to hear but I strained my ear, I did not want to miss any part of the gist.

“You know Raji now, ehn Raji.” she repeated at the look of surprise that came over the stylist. “He is the current one.” She added going back to her chair and laughing at the shocked look on her friend’s face.

“But I thought he was history.’’ The Salon owner said

“Yeah, that was until we met at Silverbird two months ago after over five years. See I’m chopping life ooo. Mo’n jaye ori mi. I am a young woman now; you want me to start gathering cob webs?”

 She stood up and checked herself out in the salon mirror making a mock parade. She was beautiful really with shining dark skin, you couldn’t say she was fat and you could not say she was slim either.

“My sister first love is important in a woman’s life. Even if you have not been cheating on your husband before, the day you meet your first love again it all changes ooo. I tell you.”

“Hmm”, the Salon owner replied.

“So me, I am just having fun ooo. Oga does his own and I do my own too. God no go vex.”

“But just be careful oo, so he doesn’t know.”

“How will he know? He trusts me so much. Even if someone tells him, he won’t believe. I have never given him any reason to doubt me, so he can’t.”

“Hmmm, ore sha connect me ehn, help your sister. I need to upgrade my shop. Don’t you want to see air conditioners here?”

“Na you dey slack na, when you are ready let me know. Meanwhile I have to leave soon to prepare Oga’s dinner, besides the school bus would have also dropped the children by now.”

There were two other ladies in the room; a lady whose hair was being relaxed and the apprentice working on her hair. The lady would shake her head in disgust from time to time spilling relaxer crème all over the arm of her chair. The apprentice however seemed to be enjoying the conversation and would hail the woman intermittently. Mummy Dolapo!!! Eyato si won jare. You are special.

I left the salon in deep thought; several thoughts and questions on my mind.

            i.   So I have been so naïve to believe women don’t really cheat 

            ii.  How hard is it to cheat really?

            iii.  How can one prevent a partner from cheating?


 Hmmmm….it is well.



18 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. lawalaboladefatai
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 17:15:31

    Women do cheat, I know of a woman, a family friend that I do go to their house often, have caught the woman severally, but I had to distance myself from the family and moreso going to their house is risky for me.


  2. famuyideolawale
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 17:20:21

    I really wish I can make good comment, but am laughing my head off here. “The thing no dey read meter my sister.” Ko n ka meter at all. I wrote some stuff abt why SOME women cheat, let me share my few reasons here

    Lack of love and affection from there spouse .So they
    outside the marriage to get what they ain’t gettin at
    home.They for security and support and out of loyalty

    they cheat because they need a little love and
    attention that normally their dumb butt husbands
    dont give. very simple

    Women cheat because they arent getting what they
    need at home. It doesnt mean necessarily love or
    attention. More than likely they have raging hormones
    and their husbands/bf/spouse just arent making them
    happy sexually. Women get to a certain age and their
    bodies go a little wild. Maybe they cant explain this to
    their spouse and instead go off and find what they
    need elsewhere. Women can be just like men and I
    can talk about this from experience. I am like that. IF
    you feel that someone cannot provide what you need
    in some way then you might look elsewhere. Cheating
    allows you the old saying “you want the cake and eat
    it too.” Best of both worlds. They have the stability,
    love, and family at home and then go off and cheat to
    mend whatever feelings are lacking at home.

    More reasons
    1- before her series relationship she slept with
    several guys and she miss it.
    2- she is bored from the person she is with.
    3- she thinks she can do it and get a way with it
    4- she thinks she can do it and knows that her
    partner will forgive her
    5- a hot person with a hot body could lead her to him
    6- emotional reasons, falling in love with someone
    7- seeking an adventure
    8- she is too hoo r ny and want more

    And Toyin, I will be waiting for the How to prevent post o. *winks nice piece as usual


  3. moskeda
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 17:37:07

    Women do cheat. They are human, after all. And cheating is a human thing. About their reasons, I can’t tell. But most of them who cheat probably have husbands who do the same just like the case above. They give up love for money and marry men who don’t send them. And because women are creatures of emotions, they begin to look for love elsewhere.


  4. maxxokoedion
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 18:20:59

    we seem to be intermingling “lust” and “love” here. what they go outside to get is not love. it is attention from another person, and lust. love is far from what the “streets” calls love. love is not cheating on who you married even when you want to.

    there are several reasons people cheat. but no matter the reason what is wrong is wrong and is not justifiable. it is very shameful for both men and women to cheat.

    anyways the bottom-line is that what they go out for is not love.

    well written Toyin. 🙂


  5. fabunmi Tolani
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 18:30:39

    Oga o, nice one. Those are d disgusting women, dere are still good ones.


  6. Abusidiqu
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 19:01:22

    When women want to cheat, they do it beyond comprehension. “The thing no dey read meter indeed”


  7. Yetundeadebiaye
    Jun 26, 2013 @ 22:42:32

    Na wa o! One day monkey go go market, e no go return!


  8. Amina ibrahim
    Jun 27, 2013 @ 05:43:35

    These things happen on a regular… I know of a woman who has been married for over 15years,her husband has been away for over 8years,and she confidently says she has 3 steady boyfriends that help her “keep body and soul together”…… She says its no big deal,because body no be fire wood….and will quickly add that “her husband will understand”….. God help us all.


  9. Adetolababs
    Jun 27, 2013 @ 05:52:25

    “Whatever a man sows, he shall reap”. Who sows first is not the matter. Women do cheat for real. Most of time for money, pleasure or strong ties with their first, second, third, or even un-numbered love.
    Lovely piece Toyin. This is your first I’m reading and I really enjoyed it.


  10. Isaacola AA
    Jun 27, 2013 @ 06:25:50

    Just wondering, do some ladies actually think why God hid their private so deep and covered in layers! It does have meter and it shows later in life. My opinion though


  11. seunodukoya
    Jun 27, 2013 @ 06:26:52

    Let me walk a totally different lane and try to answer your queries…

    i. i. So I have been so naïve to believe women don’t really cheat

    Yes, dear Toyin. Incredibly so.

    ii. How hard is it to cheat really?

    It’s the easiest thing. Depends on your moral compass/belief system.

    iii. How can one prevent a partner from cheating?

    You really can’t. A dog determined to stray will stray.
    But one can play his/her part. Prayer changes things (I do believe that, bite me!), and then be the best partner ever. God is not asleep!

    I hope with these few points of mine…ah you get the point.

    Nice one.


  12. theinkheart
    Jun 27, 2013 @ 08:36:47

    Lmaoooo!!! E no dey read meter ooo…. Great piece, again!!! God will continue to refill your inkpot… Ko ni gbe lai lai


  13. Dupe Killa (@dupekilla)
    Jun 27, 2013 @ 12:40:05

    Toyin, pele! Welcome to the new world where everything is commercialised, even love and feelings.


  14. Adejumo, Solomon Aderemi
    Jun 29, 2013 @ 08:46:41

    Cheating as we all know, used to be a sin for which men are grandly guilty. Up until now, women folk, were simply exunerated from this untowards habit. That said, with the attending taboo status given to the tendency of women to cheat in Africa, makes it a thing never to be imagined. Times have changed now though, and a bunch of 21st century maried women now see cheating not only as something to contemplate, but as an art which they are perfecting. Whatever reasons adduced to justify this act, it remains a fact that the outcome of it will continue to be disfavourable to all parties concerned.


  15. Folashade
    Jun 29, 2013 @ 14:25:14

    Some women are so insatiable, even when u give them all the love i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ this world they will still cheat. Nice piece dearie


  16. Dennis Agyeman
    Jun 30, 2013 @ 20:57:58

    Toyin amebo


  17. Ezitonye Peace
    Jul 04, 2013 @ 09:29:47

    truly women cheat,for a variety of reasons,ranging frm high sexual libidos to low self exteem,to d cash issues and peer pressure. However i tink it makes some women feel powerful,to beat men at dir own game.


  18. Olayinka
    Jul 12, 2013 @ 09:05:53

    Lemme share the biggest secret, yeah. Cheating is most prevalent among rural women. You won’t believe it. And they even do it with impunity too..


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